People are so shocked when a relationship they thought was destined for marriage bells ends in disaster. Others are exasperated that they will never have a loving meaningful relationship. Of course it’s hard when you see happy couples around you and you get invited to five weddings in one year and there’s no one you’re even interested in dating. That leads me to:

Sign #1 When you feel frustrated or depressed your judgment is clouded. You don’t notice the red flags that warn you “This is not a good relationship for you. Leave it alone.”

Sign #2 Low self-esteem can make you a people pleaser. When you compromise yourself in love, business or friendship, it’s going to backfire on you. A disappointment or blow up can happen in weeks or it can be years. In my case, it was years of a toxic codependent relationship, where I bought love and ending up loosing everything (read chapter 1: “The F**ked Up Psychic from my book Unleash The Psychic In You” to learn how to avoid the mistakes I made and the time I wasted).

Sign #3 Denial will keep you a prisoner in toxic relationships. As long as you choose not to face your reality, you will suffer and feel exasperated in your relationships. Have you ever felt let down by someone before? Do you find your expectations are rarely met in love?

The signs of toxicity are always there from day one. What’s worse than taking a look at a relationship or friendship that isn’t working? You end up feeling unhappy, dissatisfied and misunderstood. That’s no good for you or them.

I encourage you to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about how you feel about the relationships in your life. Are your needs being met? What do you wish for in your relationships? What is important to you? What are your values?

These insights will help you release the relationships that aren’t working and to create the space for new, harmonious, healthy friendships to share in your life.

Affirm: “I have the courage to release toxic relationships from my life now. I create space for loving, healthy and respectful relationships to enter my life now.”