My son Dominick

Today is the day that it is socially encouraged if you are a woman to propose to a man as I was reminded by actor and radio host @JamesBabbin!

My husband Nick was telling me that Leap Year at his old job used to be so strange as all these people who were born on February 29 got to come into the Ritz and celebrate their birthdays. “What do you think they did on the years there was no February 29?” I said.

“They were probably confused,” he said.

“Yes, like should I celebrate on February 28, March 1 or have a two day celebration?”

Imagine if there was a magic potion that you could take and the most rewarding way you are meant to live your life is revealed to you.

What if you had the perfect day today?

I remember someone sharing their insight with me and I pass it onto you to bring you closer to a perfect day. It is five words, “God is in the pause”.

When was the last time you paused?

Can you slow down enough to hear your intuition (inner-teacher)?

People often ask me, “How can I tell the difference between the voice of The Ego and true spiritual guidance?”

You will know the difference because you have no doubt in your mind that you are experiencing a feeling of peace and clarity. You don’t know how you know that all is well, even when things don’t look good in your external circumstances, like a relationship falling apart, or a negative bank balance, you just know that you are taken care of.

We attach so much meaning to things. Before you open your email do you feel:

a) Exhaustion and overwhelm before you enter your email login. Time to distract yourself with a drama and create a story of self-importance in your head.

b) Numb but focused. If you can just clear all your emails, everything will be okay. You say “Yes,” and “No,” and sometimes you don’t make a decision. What the yes and no have in common is that you aren’t making the decision from a place of spiritual alignment.

c) Excited that you have email to read and respond to. There are opportunities to learn lessons that will help you become a better person. People want to connect with you. They want to socialize with you, do business with you!

Today you may have a strong awareness that you feel exhaustion and overwhelm but you can turn that feeling into excitement. To do that, you have to seek meaning.

The way I experience a transformation in perception is through the following actions:

#1 I am aware of my thoughts and how I judge them.

#2 I stop what I am doing and bring myself into present moment by focusing on my surroundings, being in my body.

#3 I decide to empty out the exhaustion and overwhelm with the motivation that it does not serve me. I tell myself that my thoughts, feelings and environment can change to my satisfaction if I feel excited and so I say in my mind “I am excited”.

If you don’t feel a shift in your thoughts, keep practicing steps 1 through 3. If you try and then you give up, perhaps you can think of your effort as surrender rather than failure.

Today is a gorgeous day, I loved hearing Cheryl Richardson share on Oprah’s Life Class that she stands in front of the mirror and tells herself she’s cute. I took this gem of joy and on most days I say to my two years old son Dominick “I’m cute,” and he repeats after me “I cute”. It fills my heart with joy. My intention for you is that today your heart is filled with you (joy)!

“Miracles should inspire gratitude, not awe”. A Course in Miracles

p.s. Are you willing to create a Big Miracle Breakthrough in your life? Spirit won’t tell you anything you aren’t ready to hear or do. I have learned it is better to take action from a place of prevention rather than crisis. Big Miracle Breakthrough 90 Day Program will give you all the tools you need to manifest the life you desire. Questions please email: Joanna@BigMiracleBreakthrough.com

“Joanna Garzilli changed my financial life. For almost two years I was struggling to find a way to make more money from my online business and in just one session she taught me how to DOUBLE my sales and it worked instantly. Joanna’s intuition and business savvy are a powerful combination!”

- Mastin Kipp, CEO & Founder of TheDailyLove.com

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On Friday evening I was feeling overwhelmed and resentful at my life. Having worked as a professional in the self help industry for 15 years, I just wanted to throw it all away because I didn’t feel I had anymore to give.

For the last couple of months, I’d been focusing on “Being of Service”. I truly wanted to be of service but when I was in service, there was an underlying feeling of loss and that something was being taken away from me. The dichotomy, I was transmitting two different energies. I recently began praying more often to be in spiritual alignment.

I used to think that when I’d finished reading a spiritual book or completed a weekend workshop intensive that I would feel total inner peace but I didn’t. Then when I learned I had a strong belief that you couldn’t be spiritual and have money, I decided that was the big problem that had been holding me back from having everlasting peace. That illusion was shattered at the end of last year when I made two hundred thousand dollars but was in the highest state of anxiety and fear I’d ever been in. Everything looked perfect on the outside but my past had caught up to me.

My history was I grew up in a wealthy privileged family in London, UK. From six years old, I have been extremely intuitive. I always knew what people were thinking and feeling. I could see their future path. Every night, I’d get down on my knees by the side of my bed and prayer to God for deeper meaning to why I was here and what life was about and I had a burning to desire to get confirmation that there was still more to experience once we died.

It was hard for me to ever feel at ease with myself. I partied and hung out with celebrities, my life looked cool but I was fighting against my emotions to hold onto an image of what a perfect life should be. I made a series of self-destructive decisions that took me from living in a beautiful house in the Hollywood Hills to sleeping in my friend’s garage on a blow up mattress in Burbank, CA.

I share these things, not to focus on me but knowing that you may be suffering in some part of your life and not even know it.

This may be annoying to hear but I also now know that isn’t not about the money. I’ve been given lots of money. I’ve blown large sums of money. I’ve owned property, a fast car and designer clothes. I’ve also experienced the opposite. What I’ve learned from this is things come and go but you have to live with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll find yourself self-sabotaging your life. My clients never come to me and say, “I’m choosing to consciously sabotage my life”. Thank God, they intuitively know that something is out of alignment and they are ready to receive help and get back on track. I have derailed many times in my life. Thankfully, I have always managed to course correct.

Wherever you are at in your life today, know that mistakes shape you. They do not make you wrong or bad. They give you character and the strength to be courageous.

Will you take a risk and say the truth to someone today instead of hiding your feelings?

Why do you fear making a mistake? What is the worst thing that could happen if you make a mistake?

You are a divine being and deserve a beautiful life!

I also want to acknowledge my friend and collaborator, Mastin Kipp. I was having dinner with him last week at The Gratitude Café and he helped me see where the fear of doing things wrong was holding me back. Mastin is an old soul with a big heart. He also has a fantastic blog called The Daily Love and is about to tour with Oprah. How cool is that!

Love & happiness,

Joanna Garzilli

Are you ready to get into spiritual alignment? Spirit won’t tell you anything you aren’t ready to hear or do. I have learned it is better to take action from a place of prevention rather than crisis. Big Miracle Breakthrough 90 Day Program will give you all the tools you need to manifest the life you desire.

Joanna Garzilli is the author of Big Miracle Breakthrough program and Unleash The Psychic In You. Follow her on Twitter here.

It’s Valentine’s Day and the pressure is on to have the perfect day filled with love.

This can lead to impulse purchases because of not wanting to face feelings of low self esteem. Women often hit the mall for new clothes or a spa package and men drop several hundred dollars on a fancy dinner or purchase jewelry they can’t afford to buy someone’s love.

My first negative memory of Valentine’s Day was dreading going to school and being asked, “How many Valentine’s cards did you get?”

I’d got one card and it was from my mom, signed anonymously. I rationalized in my head that I didn’t recognize the writing and that it might be from an admirer but who was I kidding?

I got off the bus and each step closer I took towards my school with the cold London wind blowing in my face, the more insecure I felt.

While my teenage classmates of mine cooed and laughed over how many cards they got and brought in teddy bears and flowers from their boyfriends, I sat at my desk in the corner.

When I was 19 years old, I finally had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day and he wanted to take me out to dinner, woo hoo! I felt like an animal in a zoo. The exclusive Italian restaurant in Notting Hill was packed with couples. While the waiters ran around trying to keep up with the rush, we got neglected and he spent a lot of money on the bill. I thought because he took me out for a posh dinner that was a sign I was loved, problem was I didn’t love this guy, in fact I wasn’t really attracted to him, truth is, I didn’t want to be alone on Valentine’s Day.

When I was 26 years old, I had a boyfriend and he loved me except he was broke and I supported him financially. I was determined now that “I’d found LOVE” to have a wonderful Valentine’s Day. I bought us First Class tickets to fly from London to LA, I booked a very expensive villa at the exclusive Two Bunch Palms resort in Desert Hot Springs where George Clooney, Leonardo Di Caprio stayed and the movie The Player had that steamy lovemaking scene. I was determined to have a good time. On the surface it all looked good, but a couple of days later and thousands of dollars gone from my bank account, I didn’t feel any better. I felt like a Game Show Host, turning love on for the camera.

Today I’m happily married with a son. My husband took my hand. We smiled at each other and both said “Happy Valentine’s Day”. “I love you,” I said and I meant it. “I love you to,” he said and squeezed my hand reassuringly.

My dread of Valentine’s Day has gone. It’s been a long journey to get here.

I used to be so tied up in believing I was loved if I received cards, chocolates, flowers, stuffed teddy bears, jewelry and vacations.

Here are 3 Ways to Express Love on Valentine’s Day without going into emotional or financial debt:

Step #1: Write a list of your fears about Valentine’s Day.

For example: I don’t have a date, I won’t get any cards, I’ve got to have a good time etc. Set a timer for 5 minutes and don’t stop until the alarm sounds.

Step #2: Listen to Your Heart.

Close your eyes and bring your awareness into your heart. What are you feeling in your body when you think about Valentine’s Day?

For example: dread, pressure, old hurt from a past relationship.

Take some deep breaths into your heart and visualize those feelings releasing from your heart.

Step #3: Think Before You Spend.

Before you say, “yes” to going on date with someone or drop a load of cash on someone because you’re in denial about your true feelings, write down why you are taking that action.

For example: My client Stacy, wanted to text her boyfriend Jim and surprise him with a romantic dinner at her favorite restaurant. The problem, Stacy was secretly resentful and wanted Jim to take the initiative. Do you think Stacy should go ahead and make the surprise booking?

My suggestion to Stacy: tell her boyfriend that she’d love him to do something romantic on Valentine’s Day and then let it go. Either he’s going to surprise her or he isn’t. Whatever he does or doesn’t do, Stacy can get clear about if her needs are being met in the relationship.

I’ve helped my clients remove the blocks so that they can find love and given them the solutions to fix broken relationships. Perhaps you need to leave a relationship but you don’t feel ready, I learned that lesson the hard way and it plunged me into massive debt because I ignored my intuition instead of trusting it. That full story is in Unleash The Psychic In You: How To Trust Your Intuition for Successful Decision Making.

Why do one out of two marriages fail? Why are there so many gorgeous talented people who are still single? Why do you believe that you can’t have the type of love you believed was possible when you saw Disney movies as a kid?

You can take advantage of healing your heart and getting beneath the surface of what’s holding you back from experiencing true love. If you feel ready to leave behind the emotional baggage of your past and want to create a new story around love, please email: Joanna@AmericasIntuitionCoach.com and write: “Love Life” in the subject line.

CLICK HERE to watch my dating expert advice on Fox 5 San Diego Morning New: how you can spot the red flags of online dating by using your intuition.