It’s easy to have good intentions. It’s another thing to actually fulfill your intentions and live the life you dreamed of. Take a moment to imagine your perfect day. Plenty of money in your bank account, recognized and appreciated for your career achievements. You work with like-minded kind and passionate people. You have a blissful relationship and are in perfect health. You have the freedom to do exactly what you want, when you want. You feel a deep sense of peace and gratitude because you are constantly supported by your spirit guides and connected to God consciousness.

Why is it so many people fall short of their desires? Have you already given up on your goals? Are you aware that you keep making excuses as to why you’re not living your best live. I’ve noticed the moment things get a little tough, a wee bit challenging and beyond a comfort zone, you give up.

What you may not be aware of and need to be conscious of is you are holding yourself back from living your best life. You have the power to change that now. Let’s take a look at 7 reasons you don’t live your best life so you can turn negative situations into positive outcomes.

Reason #1 You want a quick fix. There is an unrealistic self-imposed expectation to achieve faster. Have you noticed how often you opt for the fastest option? When was the last time you choose the scenic route on Mapquest? Are you compromising your diet on a miniscule lunch-break with fast food you don’t really want because you’ve got to get something in your stomach? Are you saying, “Yes,” to people because you don’t feel you have the time to research and you’re relying on someone else? These are costly mistakes. You can loose money in your business, make poor partnerships, commit to things you don’t truly want because you haven’t taken time to think about it and you’re robbing yourself of relaxation and enjoying life.

Reason #2: You fear what you don’t know. What if you don’t get the answer you want? Do you get struck by overwhelm? Have you ever had a big dream and felt excited and inspired but when it comes down to taking action, you trick yourself into not having enough knowledge and the know how to face your fear and educate yourself. If you used your intuition combined with sensible investigation, would you still carry fear inside you?

Reason #3: You don’t believe you deserve to have what you want. I’ve seen people light up when sharing their dreams and as soon as I say, “Wow! That’s an amazing vision. What are you doing to make it happen?” They clam up, shoulders hunch, enthusiasm runs out of sight, it’s like seeing the air whoosh out of a balloon. Are you aware of all your beliefs?

Reason #4: You’re too busy looking at what isn’t working in someone else’s life to distract you from your own dissatisfaction. You can give yourself the false illusion of feeling good about yourself because a friend, acquaintance or family member is dysfunctional, unmotivated or very complicated. It’s a poor excuse. As long as you focus on someone else without learning from it, you’re never going to live the life you dream of or accomplish your goals.

Reason #5: Another person is responsible for your happiness. All too often, I see people blaming others for the current status of their life. As long as you put the fault on someone else, you’ll carry guilt and pain inside you that you don’t understand and wish you could get rid of.

Reason #6: You haven’t taken time to consider what you truly want. Goals, needs and desire change over time. Nothing ever stays the same. You, your environment and life circumstances are constantly evolving. You need to keep in touch with your feelings and track your thoughts.

Reason #7: You take advice from people who don’t know what is best for you. I often have clients come to me saying, “She criticized my goals, said I couldn’t achieve them.” Don’t go to the wrong people for advice. Get honest with yourself. You know who the dream wreckers are so stop sabotaging yourself and surround yourself with positive and supportive people.

My spirit guides always dole out tough love. Sometimes it hurts looking at the areas of your life where you’ve been complacent, lazy, negative and irresponsible. It’s our human nature so it’s crucial you invest a little time and energy every day into developing your awareness and listening to your intuition. The outcome is you create miracles for yourself and that is the best experience.

I must confess I’ve been observing how deeply people’s energy is affected by the lead up to the presidential election along with the crash of Lehman Brothers, the near collapse of AIG and the severe instability of WAMU.

During turbulent times, it is even more important for you to take time out to connect inwards and listen to your intuition. Click here now to download my special interview and guided meditation, inspired by Stephanie Gunning to help you create inner peace in your daily life. Much needed during these unbalanced financial times. (The energy on the call was amazing!)

In today’s Intuition Secret I focus on how you can transform clouds of financial doom and gloom into seeds of prosperity. Will you spiral into despair or spread your wings and fly?

Speaking of flying, I met the most wonderfully optimistic angel last Friday. Her name is Molly Bedingfield, founder of GlobalAngels.org (Mom of singer Natasha Bedingfield) and next week she will be taking part in the highest ever charity skydive at Mt. Everest to raise $1 million for orphans, street kids and trafficked children in Nepal and Asia. 100% of funds raised will go directly to the kids. This charity is the real deal so I urge you to take a moment and visit GlobalAngels.org

Also look out for my special Coaching Gift that will be announced in next week’s newsletter. If you want to breakthrough stagnant energy and are ready to do those big things you’ve dreamed of and perhaps talked about but still haven’t manifested, email today: info@americasintuitioncoach.com and write “Big Dreams” in the subject line to learn more.

This weekend remember to be kind and gentle to yourself and listen to your intuition. xoxo

Are you aware of your intuition?

One day you are clear as a bell when it comes to trusting your choices and other times it’s like staring at a blank wall. I had those days in my past, when I didn’t know what was stopping me getting the answers I needed.

Even though I was psychic, I couldn’t see what I needed to see because I had blocked my vision. There was I thinking God was punishing me (yes, ridiculous) when in fact the biggest block to clarity was myself.

Are you aware of what blocks your intuition? Everyone has a blind-spot, everyone.

The good news is you are not limited by your blocks. It can be effortless to remove blocks that stop you getting what you want now.

Once you’ve incorporated the 7-steps I give you below into your life and on a consistent basis, you’ll no longer feel frustration or dread when it’s decision time.

1. Don’t Assume Anything

Do you know why you sometimes assume your next best action step?

You THINK you already know the answer.

I often see people settling for the quick-fix. Those people have lack of willingness to discover knowledge and an aura of laziness.

I was one of those people and you know what happened to me?

My goals crashed and burned every time I assumed.

2 Consuming Obsession

Have you ever been into someone, so much so you can’t think straight?

In the past, I was always filling my head with a new obsession, usually it was a guy who was no good for me.

I’d think and think and think about what he might be thinking and exhaust myself in the process.

That way, I didn’t have to take any RESPONSIBILITY for the decisions I needed to make because I could blame everything on my obsession, truly my distraction.

Can you think of any obsessions you might have that are blocking you from getting the answers you need?

3. Feeling Good About Criticism

When you think you know what’s best for someone else and they make a mistake, it takes the focus off of your own choices.

Making a comment about how someone eats, speaks, whom they date or what they wear that has a derogatory angle, is being self-righteous.

Criticizing another person is a fast way to disconnect you from higher guidance because when you criticize them, you move your awareness outside of yourself.

Don’t tell me you never criticize. Everyone does at times. You’d have to be a saint like Mother Teresa.

Next time you catch yourself criticizing someone with a friend, don’t beat yourself up because that’s self-criticism. Be aware and stop criticizing.

This will create the space for intuition to exist fully in your life.

4. Being Impatient For The Answer

Do you know what happens energetically when you become impatient?

You disconnect yourself from any wise guidance that is available to you.

One example of impatience is inviting friends over for dinner at 7:00pm and being impatient that it’s 6:45pm and they haven’t arrived yet.

By the time your guests show up, you’re going to be flustered and unreceptive. Now imagine those dinner guests as intuition.

Impatience shuts out your intuition.

5. Swimming In Resistance

Can you see when you enter into your stream of resistance?

You unknowingly push away guidance because when you swim in the stream of intuition, it carries you fast to your answer and goal.

In fact, when you’re not used to flowing with intuition, it can feel overwhelming. This is why people choose to stay in resistance.

Any resistance you may be experiencing in your life is only created by you. It is easy to remove with simple techniques that you’ll be able to use from the Intuition Development System.

6. A Natural Tendency to Control

Can you see when you are being caring vs. controlling?

It’s easy to slip into unknowingly manipulating another person.

In your head you may justify that your intentions are wanting what’s best for everyone, however if you’re unable to trust another person’s ability to make a successful decision, you block your intuition.

When you catch yourself trying to maneuver an outcome, step back and give yourself space for a creative solution.

7. Making Your Fear a Reality

Why fear what you don’t know?

Fear manifests itself as an energy you are unaware of or that you don’t understand.

Why fear your future?

Fearing what has not been created immerses you in creating the opposite you what you want.

The next time fear arises within you, ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that can happen?

I’ve learned that it’s never as bad as you imagine it to be. It only gets very painful when you ignore your fear and go into denial.

Take Responsibility For Your Decisions Now

The more you take responsibility for the decisions you need to make, the greater your intuition will serve you well.

Your first easy step is to OBSERVE how these 7-Big Mistakes may be operating in your life now.

Start using your intuition today to recognize your mistakes and you’ll become even more intuitive and confident in the choices you have to make.

It’s all very well being tuned in and peaceful when you are having a quiet weekend or taking a walk on the beach.

What about when you have to make a decision now?

Not tomorrow, not next week, NOW.

It’s easy to make excuses. You can go into denial. You know who suffers?

You. Yes you.

I know, I’ve been there. I put myself through excruciating low self-esteem because I allowed my senses to get lazy and I rolled along in life, all the while fear and worry were building beneath the surface of my seemingly good life.

Stop letting life happen to you and create the life you want. I see so many people think they don’t have control over their circumstances whether it’s in a relationship, business partnership or finances.

“You aren’t powerless. It’s just not true”.

Here are my Top 3 Tips to kickstart your Intuition that I recommend. If you choose to practice just one of these tips, you will experience positive transformation in your life.

1. Get Centered

I know, it sounds so simple, “Get centered”. It is when you allow yourself.

Still stuck with this concept?

Ok, think about what happens when you are energetically out of alignment. You may feel distracted, overwhelmed, exhausted, scattered, unfocused.

Why?

When your aura opens too wide, it is susceptible to outside energies that you do not have conscious awareness of. People and situations begin to enter your space that you may not want into your space.

How do you get centered?

I draw my awareness inwards. I visualize it moving inside my body. This helps me to sense how far open my aura is. Then I focus on its most extended point and I intention it inwards.

Dear folks, this takes a lot of practice however, once you’ve mastered it, you will have more energy, clarity, serenity and happiness.

2. Active Listening

There’s listening and there’s LISTENING.

Trust me, you’re not really listening 90% of the time.

I constantly catch myself when I loose focus. The difference is because I use my intuition and I have a deeper sense of awareness, I’m able to quickly course correct when I’m zoning out and missing the truth of what someone is sharing and to hear the wisdom of my spirit guides.

3. Feel with Your Gut

I wonder why clairsentience is referred to as “Gut Instinct”?

I want you to move out of your head now. You think you know what gut instinct is however there are a multitude of feelings that have different meanings to help you determine the outcome of a future situation when you are truly attuned to your core awareness.

It takes commitment and courage to feel what’s really going on, especially when it’s something unpleasant.

Look at it this way, if you don’t address the truth of your situation now, it’s not going to go away and it’ll likely turn out worse than if you’d allowed yourself to feel the energy. You’d be prepared and be able to create a better outcome.

Try practicing one of the intuition techniques today every day for seven days and see what happens. It’s a good idea to journal your insights, they can be very insightful.

This past week, I met up for lunch with my dear friend Bruce Newberg who casts a really cool show on TNT called “The Closer” starring Kyra Sedgwick.

I’ve seen Bruce in action when he’s casting and he’s totally intuitive. He naturally applies his Sixth Sense to make the right casting choice!

Do you trust yourself to make the best decisions every time?

Are you confident about the next step you need to take?

Or, do you procrastinate?

I was Queen Procrastinator! The result was I experienced a lot of angst, fear, worry, frustration, low self esteem, blame and yes, ANGER.

You wouldn’t think it looking at me or spending time with me because I managed to do a good acting job internalizing all those painful emotions.

Wow it hurt! I made myself physically ill with nosebleeds and depression.

Here Are 7 Things You Must Do If You Want to Overcome Procrastination…

The worst thing you can do is to go into denial and put your decision making process on hold. If your next step is “I need to meditate on this” that’s not procrastination. However you need to watch out for procrastination creeping in.

Denial is lethal! I’ll explain more in the article below.

So please enjoy these 7 signs and solutions I’ve learned that have moved me from procrastination to ACTION QUEEN.

I’m a go-getter. I love living life. I’m proactive and belief anything is possible if you believe it to be so.

However, I wasn’t always that way. I’d go through cycles of taking action, sometimes charging forward feeling unstoppable and then I’d train wreck. Hit the wall. Sometimes I experienced weeks of paralysis.

I knew what I needed to do, but I didn’t do it.

Why?

You need to unearth what’s really happening inside you. Use your intuition.

Here are 7 key signs I’ve learned from experience that I recommend. My signs have indicated to me when self-sabotage is about to derail me and instead keep me on target with my responsibilities to my family, friends, health, finances and career.

And following these tips has guaranteed me a good night’s sleep!

1. You’ll Deal With It Later

Is your head playing the theme song from Annie, “Tomorrow, Tomorrow”?

Do you set out with good intentions and enthusiasm to complete something and weeks, even years later fail to have it done?

Here’s some things you may have put on pause:

Doing taxes, Filing papers, replying to emails
Clearing out junk, old clothes, furniture and broken objects
Writing your book, TV show, Movie, Weekly newsletter
Going to the Gym, walking the dog!
Sending Birthday cards, replying to invitations for events (Weddings)
Beginning a relationship, Putting energy into a friendship, Ending a relationship
Changing career, Starting your own business
Going to the dentist, doctor, nutritionist
Have you put anything on hold lately?

If your answer is “Yes”, are you aware of the effect it’s having on you?

I know when I address my procrastination, I feel like a weight has been lifted and I’m happy, confident and peaceful.

2. You Feel Overwhelmed

What does overwhelm look like?

Let’s look at it from an intuitive standpoint.

• Visually, a stack of bills may look like an ocean of paper
• A voice in your head could be saying “I can’t handle this now. Agh!”
• You feel your stomach drop three feet when you do look at the bill and your head spins.
• You know you have to pay the bill but you do contrary action and walk away.

3. Brain Fog

You can’t think clearly. When you do think, it feels like there’s a metal object stuck in your head. Someone’s pulled the drapes down inside your head so when you try and connect an internal thought to an outside action. Guess what? Nothing happens.

4. You’re Depressed

What does this look depression look like?
You may sit on the couch for hours and not be able to move.
Take a ten minute nap after lunch and get up at 6pm.
Feed yourself negative self-talk.
Feel like you’ve just had Kryptonite chained to your body.

5. Exhaustion

You are constantly tired. Even when you’ve slept ten hours, you can’t seem to get ahead of the curve. Facing social events may feel like purgatory.

6. Over Committing

You say “Yes” to people’s requests, new projects, lunches, meetings, events and parties when you already committed to three times what you’re capable of handling right now.

7. Perfectionism

The dialogue in your head may go something like this:

“What if I say or do the wrong thing? I won’t be good enough. I don’t know how to get it done? No one will buy it, read it, like it”.

7 Steps You Can Take to Overcome Procrastination Now

Step 1 – Write a list of your current commitments

Step 2 – Create five columns and write the following headings: Family, Friends, Health, Finances, Career

Step 3 – Put each commitment into the relevant column

Step 4 – Ask yourself, “What is the most important thing in each column?”

Step 5 – Prioritize: Place the most important thing at the top of the list

Step 6 – Commit to one thing on your list today

Step 7 – Write down the steps that need to happen to get it done.

For example: Goal: Loose 10 pounds before my wedding. Commitment and Action Steps: Go to the gym five times a week. Hire a personal trainer once a week.

No excuses! Just think of how great you will feel.