This past week has been AMAZING! I couldn’t wait any longer to discover if we would be having a boy or a girl. What do you think? Boy or girl?

I also attended my dear friend Kim Castle’s Conscious Entrepreneurs Business TV show taping. That’s us celebrating after the event.

She told me she’s re-broadcasting a special call The 7 Secrets Behind Today’s Top-earning Brands: Why Some Businesses Are Still Thriving in Today’s Economy and How Yours Can Too, that I was on last summer. Only after what I learned from Kim did I realize I needed to re-brand my website and the book cover of Unleash The Psychic In You. The result was I increased my income by 400%. Are you ready to find out how? Join them Wednesday, February 25th for free.

This week I was blown away by the information that came through on the next two calls of The Soul Mate Factor. Here’s what someone else had to say after call #2: “What a great class! I’ve been meeting so many men!”. – - Victoria

The audio is available now. It’s not too late, perhaps you’ll join me for the bonus call where you can experience the Divine Marriage Meditation?

Quite a few of you have emailed me recently about the meaning of your dreams so this week’s intuition secret: 5 Types of Nighttime Dreams: How to Understand Their Meaning …

Sending an abundance of love & blessings!

A common theme I see when I begin working with a client for one-on-one intuition coaching is what they think they want and what they think they are doing are not actually so.

The person will be adamant that they are taking the right actions. I then ask, “Are you getting what you want?”

Of course they’re not.

Here are three steps to unblock you (everyone has blocks, no one escapes blocks!):

Step #1 You have to accept how things are. This does not mean be a “doormat” or compromise. When you acknowledge the depth of your reality, the underlying blockages will be revealed to you.

Step #2 Compare your thought process to your actions. A good way to ensure the truth of your actions is to speak with someone you can confide in and trust. If you feel unsafe or judged, you won’t reveal your true thoughts. Your confidant can act as a barometer to help you sense when your actions are out of alignment with your desires.

Step #3 Focus on one block at a time. When you recognize a core negative belief, it takes time to unravel if it has laid dormant within you for some time. By bringing attention to this one area and working on deep internal transformation, you will purge the limitation and stop it returning in the near future.

These 3 steps will lay the foundation for your intentions to manifest successfully in your life.

Affirm: “I accept my core beliefs have no power over me. I willing release my blockages and allow my spirit and soul to align with my higher purpose now.”

As 2008 comes to a close, you have an opportunity to review your year. During all the Christmas activity with family, take an hour to reflect on your life and answer the following:

1. Did you achieve your goals?
2. What character traits held you back?
3. Did you develop a new attitude that supported your spiritual development?
4. Is there anyone you need to forgive before 2009? If yes, can you forgive them?
5. Are you dreaming big enough? If not, what beliefs hold you back?
6. Commit to one goal in 2009 now. What is it?
7. What date will you take the first step to manifest your goal?
8. Do you have a New Year’s resolution? What results can this resolution create in your life?
9. Who has made a positive impact on your life in 2008? How?
10. What will you do in 2009 that will inspire all those whom you meet?

Affirm: “I commit to my spiritual path and living it in each moment of the day.”

It’s easy to have good intentions. It’s another thing to actually fulfill your intentions and live the life you dreamed of. Take a moment to imagine your perfect day. Plenty of money in your bank account, recognized and appreciated for your career achievements. You work with like-minded kind and passionate people. You have a blissful relationship and are in perfect health. You have the freedom to do exactly what you want, when you want. You feel a deep sense of peace and gratitude because you are constantly supported by your spirit guides and connected to God consciousness.

Why is it so many people fall short of their desires? Have you already given up on your goals? Are you aware that you keep making excuses as to why you’re not living your best live. I’ve noticed the moment things get a little tough, a wee bit challenging and beyond a comfort zone, you give up.

What you may not be aware of and need to be conscious of is you are holding yourself back from living your best life. You have the power to change that now. Let’s take a look at 7 reasons you don’t live your best life so you can turn negative situations into positive outcomes.

Reason #1 You want a quick fix. There is an unrealistic self-imposed expectation to achieve faster. Have you noticed how often you opt for the fastest option? When was the last time you choose the scenic route on Mapquest? Are you compromising your diet on a miniscule lunch-break with fast food you don’t really want because you’ve got to get something in your stomach? Are you saying, “Yes,” to people because you don’t feel you have the time to research and you’re relying on someone else? These are costly mistakes. You can loose money in your business, make poor partnerships, commit to things you don’t truly want because you haven’t taken time to think about it and you’re robbing yourself of relaxation and enjoying life.

Reason #2: You fear what you don’t know. What if you don’t get the answer you want? Do you get struck by overwhelm? Have you ever had a big dream and felt excited and inspired but when it comes down to taking action, you trick yourself into not having enough knowledge and the know how to face your fear and educate yourself. If you used your intuition combined with sensible investigation, would you still carry fear inside you?

Reason #3: You don’t believe you deserve to have what you want. I’ve seen people light up when sharing their dreams and as soon as I say, “Wow! That’s an amazing vision. What are you doing to make it happen?” They clam up, shoulders hunch, enthusiasm runs out of sight, it’s like seeing the air whoosh out of a balloon. Are you aware of all your beliefs?

Reason #4: You’re too busy looking at what isn’t working in someone else’s life to distract you from your own dissatisfaction. You can give yourself the false illusion of feeling good about yourself because a friend, acquaintance or family member is dysfunctional, unmotivated or very complicated. It’s a poor excuse. As long as you focus on someone else without learning from it, you’re never going to live the life you dream of or accomplish your goals.

Reason #5: Another person is responsible for your happiness. All too often, I see people blaming others for the current status of their life. As long as you put the fault on someone else, you’ll carry guilt and pain inside you that you don’t understand and wish you could get rid of.

Reason #6: You haven’t taken time to consider what you truly want. Goals, needs and desire change over time. Nothing ever stays the same. You, your environment and life circumstances are constantly evolving. You need to keep in touch with your feelings and track your thoughts.

Reason #7: You take advice from people who don’t know what is best for you. I often have clients come to me saying, “She criticized my goals, said I couldn’t achieve them.” Don’t go to the wrong people for advice. Get honest with yourself. You know who the dream wreckers are so stop sabotaging yourself and surround yourself with positive and supportive people.

My spirit guides always dole out tough love. Sometimes it hurts looking at the areas of your life where you’ve been complacent, lazy, negative and irresponsible. It’s our human nature so it’s crucial you invest a little time and energy every day into developing your awareness and listening to your intuition. The outcome is you create miracles for yourself and that is the best experience.

If you were to perceive failure at an energetic level, as pure energy, think quantum physicists looking at failure under a microscope; what does failure look like?

Is failure scoring poorly on your SATs? Or do you think financial debt makes you a failure? Do you look at the wealth and lifestyle of Bill Gates or Paris Hilton and feel ever so slightly inadequate?

It’s hard not to compare ourselves to others because it’s our natural instinct to do so.

Failure doesn’t have to be so black and white yet most people see themselves as a success or a failure.

It gets very painful when you keep holding yourself in a place of failure when in fact you are successful.

Here’s a fly on the wall at a Monday morning chat around the ad agency water cooler:

“Did you hear Jenny got the promotion to Head of Media Sales?” Dan said.

“Really?” Paul said.

“Yeah, she won the Smith account bringing in an extra $50,000 a year for the company and she gets a $10,000 bonus,” Dan said.

“She’s doing big things for the company,” Paul said, doing his best to ignore his feelings of inadequacy.

“Rumor has it three people about to be let go of at the end of the week,” Dan said.

“Any names mentioned,” Paul said, obviously fishing to make sure his name wasn’t in the mix.

“It’ll be the execs with the lowest sales, out, no exceptions by management,” Dan said.

“Oh,” Paul said, acting cool on the outside. Inside his head spun out of control as he tried to calculate his sales. Would he be out of a job?

Paul had worked for the agency for ten years now. What would he tell the wife and kids? Small Christmas gifts. No money for the trip to his wife’s parents. He imagined how she would freak out when told this yearly tradition would be broken. Perhaps she would want a divorce? Paul felt small and weak, like a true failure.

Who and what determines that you are a failure?

A media sales exec at Saatchi & Saatchi would consider $50,000 in ad sales a pathetic performance. On the other hand, a cashier at a local food mart would consider $50,000 an amazing success.

I felt like a great failure for most of my life. I struggled to acknowledge my achievements. Even when I did experience success, I couldn’t enjoy it because I was so critical of my results. People would pat me on the back yet I remained depressed. Can you relate?

First, I invite you to take a look at several different meanings of FAILURE. Study them well. Can you see yourself in any of the descriptions?

Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)
FAILURE-noun

Even if a failure is in the past, it can still affect your energy and your experience of life. That can be extremely draining. I’m all for being optimistic and upbeat. However if there’s a ghost in the room, you’ll be scared to go there and that will keep you from getting what you want in life.

Here are 10 ways you can overcome that awful feeling of failure now.

# 1 Face failure. It takes so much energy to pretend your failures didn’t exist, hurt you or matter. When you acknowledge your failure, its power diminishes.

# 2 Write down your failures. Get a blank piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. In the left column, write the heading “Failure” and in the right column “Success.” First list all your failures followed by your successes.

# 3 Evaluate your beliefs about failure. Become aware of your mental thoughts about failure. Are these thoughts yours? Or did someone else criticize you and you took ownership of that belief?

# 4 Observe how these failures make you feel. Can you pinpoint where you feel a specific failure in your body? Has it manifested as a bad back, depression, laziness, recurring headaches?

# 5 You are not your failure or success. Having $2,000,000 in the bank doesn’t make you a success or a failure. Failure and success are relative. You are not your failure and you are not your success. You are you.

# 6 Change your perception of failure. As long as you see yourself as a failure, you will be because you will project that energy and attract circumstances to validate this belief. If you learn from your failure and do things differently next time, you have not failed.

#7 Stop living in the past. Every time you think about a past failure, it lowers your energy vibration and impedes the good things that are coming to you right now.

# 8 It doesn’t matter what other people think. When you worry about someone else’s opinion, you step outside of your circle of power. This creates feelings of fear, anxiety, low self esteem, etc. That is not your natural state of magnificence.

# 9 Get over rejection now! You’ve already failed when you take no action. The worst thing someone can do is say, “No,” and most of the time it’s not personal; even if it seems it or feels it. It truly isn’t about you.

# 10 Check in with your true feelings often. Being sensitive is a good thing. Allow yourself to feel. Don’t behave like a machine on autopilot rushing through your day or switch off your feelings. Take several moments in the day to breath. This will connect you to your heart and soul and detach you from being swayed by the downturn of failure and upswing of success. You will remain neutral and at peace when you apply these steps.