Anyone can make contact with their spirit guides. This is not a gift for a few special people. It is a learnable skill that with consistent practice will become second nature to you.

Tip #1 Don’t try and force communication. The harder you try, the more you will get stuck in your head and the less likely you are to connect to your spirit guides. As soon as negative self-talk arises and all your reasons why spirit communication isn’t possible say to yourself, “Thank you very much for showing my limiting thoughts,” and cancel them out by refusing to pay attention to them.

Tip #2 Cultivate deep self awareness. This means get in touch with your spiritual essence by taking time to focus inwards with focused intention. An excellent way to do this successfully is close your eyes to shut off external stimuli. This increases your ability to see, hear, feel and know the energy that is present around you and exists within you.

Tip #3 Begin a conversation with your spirit guides. You may wonder where to start? Your best first step is to center and ground yourself. This ensures you are ready for communication with your spirit guides. Once you feel a sense of calm, your spirit guides will attune to your frequency because you have intentionally aligned yourself with their vibration. If you feel any nervousness or excitement, take deep breaths to transmute the energy build up.

Now focus on listening, feeling and receiving clairvoyant images in your Mind’s Eye also known as the Third Eye by closing your eyes. Trust what comes to you. Write down any thoughts or impressions you receive. They may seem silly or obvious however, when you look at these ideas a few days later or even months later, you will see the information makes sense to you.

Affirm: “Communication with my spirit guides is effortless.”

I can’t help but notice so many people are paralyzed by fear at the moment. It makes me sad and I have to admit a little bit frustrated to watch brilliant, talented people limit themselves.

I keep hearing excuse upon excuse why let’s call her “Matilda” can’t get her business off the ground. Or why there are no descent guys out there. It’s just not true!

I may sound harsh and even unsympathetic but that is not the case. I know what it’s like to think like Matilda. I’ve been there and as long as you think you can’t do anything about your circumstances, you won’t be able to. Now that truly is a sad outcome.

Do you want to mope around and feel sorry for yourself that your bank balance isn’t where it should be? Are you going to blame the last government, the new government and the economy?

I encourage, I urge you to have faith in you! Why?

Reason #1 You can achieve anything when you have faith in you. You can have your best financial year yet. You can be fulfilled in your career. Your life can have meaning and purpose. You can meet your soul mate and share your lives together.

Reason #2 You inspire other people to break through their limitations. What a gift to motivate and instill faith in people you meet, from close friends to strangers. I’ve heard wonderful stories of how someone overwhelmed and contemplating suicide has turned their life around.

Reason #3 You live a life of happiness, fulfillment and peace. Even when there is chaos around you, feeling good can be your daily experience. Pass that serene energy to others. People will feel better simply by being in your presence.

Affirm: “I have faith in myself.”

You will recognize a soul mate because the existence of their vibration has matching color frequencies or sound waves to you. Unless you are clairvoyant (psychic vision) or are clairaudient (extra sensory hearing), you will not be able to see or hear the evidence of a soul mate. A soul is naturally clairsentient (the ability to feel energy). When we open our hearts, our aptitude to sense energy is heightened. You will feel the resonance of a soul mate inside your physical body.

In the presence of a soul mate, you may begin to tingle beneath your skin or get a warm fuzzy expansive feeling where the air touches your skin. This is where your aura resides. If you make love with this person, your whole body may begin to vibrate. You will feel like the cells in your body are humming, buzzing. If you haven’t experienced this yet, you’ll definitely know when it’s happening to you!

The challenge of meeting a soul mate is you are this amazing energy of existence that lives within self-created limitations. You only see elements of who you are. When you move into the flow of life’s currents, a sense of connection is experienced. Except you keep stepping out of the flow because you unconsciously fear being carried to a dangerous place. This locale is The Great Mystery. This is your soul’s home. There is nothing to fear here.

Why in The Wizard of Oz does Dorothy click her red shoes three times and say, “There’s no place like home”? A wise part of her knows that there is a place where she may experience true love. The undeveloped parts of her have to go through initiations that will test her desire for love.

In The Alchemist the young boy concludes at the end of his adventures that the best place to be is home. He needed to visit environments different from his existence to awaken gratitude for what he already had. It may be hard to understand this, especially when you have responsibilities of paying bills, holding down a job, family responsibilities, and a string of failed relationships.

If you could see the full magnificence of who you are, you would never fear again. You would always feel love. This is the soul’s purpose. Will you listen to the needs of your soul?

Affirm: “I am open to the loving guidance of my soul. I willingly create space for love in my life now.”

People are so shocked when a relationship they thought was destined for marriage bells ends in disaster. Others are exasperated that they will never have a loving meaningful relationship. Of course it’s hard when you see happy couples around you and you get invited to five weddings in one year and there’s no one you’re even interested in dating. That leads me to:

Sign #1 When you feel frustrated or depressed your judgment is clouded. You don’t notice the red flags that warn you “This is not a good relationship for you. Leave it alone.”

Sign #2 Low self-esteem can make you a people pleaser. When you compromise yourself in love, business or friendship, it’s going to backfire on you. A disappointment or blow up can happen in weeks or it can be years. In my case, it was years of a toxic codependent relationship, where I bought love and ending up loosing everything (read chapter 1: “The F**ked Up Psychic from my book Unleash The Psychic In You” to learn how to avoid the mistakes I made and the time I wasted).

Sign #3 Denial will keep you a prisoner in toxic relationships. As long as you choose not to face your reality, you will suffer and feel exasperated in your relationships. Have you ever felt let down by someone before? Do you find your expectations are rarely met in love?

The signs of toxicity are always there from day one. What’s worse than taking a look at a relationship or friendship that isn’t working? You end up feeling unhappy, dissatisfied and misunderstood. That’s no good for you or them.

I encourage you to do some soul searching and be honest with yourself about how you feel about the relationships in your life. Are your needs being met? What do you wish for in your relationships? What is important to you? What are your values?

These insights will help you release the relationships that aren’t working and to create the space for new, harmonious, healthy friendships to share in your life.

Affirm: “I have the courage to release toxic relationships from my life now. I create space for loving, healthy and respectful relationships to enter my life now.”

• Have you suffered a broken heart?
• Does asking for what you want in a relationship make you uneasy?
• Are you longing for a daily dose of feeling high on love?
• Do you wonder if exquisitely true love only exists in fairytales?

I believe everyone has a special mate that wants to share their life with you.

The biggest mistake I see people make is they shut down their emotions.

It is common for my most heartbroken clients to say they have no feeling in their heart and that they are numb.

Numbness is a sign that you have an intense reservoir of emotions beneath the surface that need to be released so they may heal.

When you stuff down your emotions, deny them, pretend they don’t exist; you create more pain and blockages at an energetic level than you can ever imagine.

How do I know this?

I see it at a psychic level of awareness and you can see it to (read chapter 8 of Unleash The Psychic In You).

Do you know what happens when you ignore your soul’s needs?

Your higher self (the wise inner counselor) will kick your butt in every area of your life. You’ll think other people are causing you pain however as you become more aware, it may be an uncomfortable yet liberating experience to see that you created this reality for yourself. Hence my spirit guides use the term “spiritual butt kicking.”

You are meant to experience a life filled with love. When you overcome the fear of feeling pain, it will be replaced with a deep healing in your heart that will surround your aura in love, making you magnetic to true love.

You get to be your own Cupid. How cool is that!